Time really does fly by when you are having fun, well and even when you are walking in the valleys. It was just yesterday I was eating a Jumbo Jack from Jack In The Box and two tacos in labor, ready to deliver this amazing baby boy I had waited what seemed like forever to arrive. That was twenty-one years ago.
Now that baby boy is grown and out on his own, working and making plans to move across country, So many days I stop to think, “This isn’t the plan I had for you sweet child twenty-one years ago.” I had plans for you to grow up and go off to college, find a beautiful girl, of course she had pledged Pi Beta Phi like your mom, and you would live happily ever after. Christmas’ would be spent at my home, decorating the tree, listening to the sound track of “The Nut Cracker”, while smells of mulled cider and cinnamon filled the air.
But alas, God has a different plan and path. Many days I want to question God or yell and scream, “why is your plan for my son not matching up with mine?” In my heart of hearts, I know why, God’s Will isn’t my will. I am sure when I took off to Texas at age 23 my mom and dad might have been feeling like I am today, “This isn’t the plan, God, we had for our middle daughter.”
They had a strong faith in our heavenly father then and I have a strong faith in Him now, which is why I know, even as hard and frustrating as it can be at times, I hold on to God’s truth and believe He knows what is best for my baby, better than I do.
I also know that his dad and I raised him with Jesus in his heart and the seeds are planted there even though today he is making choices that are so far from what Jesus teaches us. But the more I nag, the more I am just a clanging gong in his still growing and developing, trying to figure out who he is brain. Then that brain just tunes me out. As Proverbs 25:24 reminds us, “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome mom.” (okay, so I changed wife to mom here, but you get the point).
If you have ever watched the television show, The Goldbergs, you will totally understand where I am coming from here. The mom, Beverly Goldberg played by actress Wendi McLendon-Covey, is a totally helicopter, smothering, over – the – top sparkling, loving, doting mom. She would go to the ends of the earth for her children. However,Erica, Barry, and Adam, her children usually see her as meddling, bothersome, and smothering. When I start in on him and how I disagree with the “adult choices he feels he is making for his life” he wants nothing to do with me, feels I am over bearing and smothering, and turns away, as the Goldberg children do on television.
So what’s a mom of a young adult son to do? A mom who has a big faith in her savior, Jesus? Well, she prays. Don’t get me wrong, I have learned this lesson the hard way, trying my way first, worrying. Trust me, fretting gets you no where. Now prayer, specific prayer, gets you every where!
When I started specifically praying to release my child over to God’s care, praying for God to secure his protection, praying that he would have a sound mind, and praying he would break down ungodly strongholds, things started to change. Not so much with him, but within me.
The nights of lying awake in bed worrying about what he ate for the day and did he have everything he needed drifted away. Tears of sadness for parenting mistakes and guilt washed away. Relief, forgiveness, and grace flooded my soul.
Praying God’s word over my child has brought me peace. Are there times I still worry and disagree with my son’s choices, you bet. But I quickly look up, let go, and live joy. As 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 reminds us, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus”.
Some days are hard, the days I feel I am in the valley I can lift my eyes and know my God sees me there. I can pray continually His words and he hears my cries. On the days I am on the top of the mountain, I thank God for putting me there. No matter where I land, I give Jesus the praise and glory for all things, thanking him for the blessings in my life, especially one beautiful child, well now handsome 21 year old son.
Here are a few of the scriptures I have been praying over my son.
I have used a fabulous little book by Stormie Omartian, “The Power of a Praying Parent”. A friend of mine at the gym where I work out gave it to me a few years ago and it has been the little gift that keeps on giving.
The first being the scripture I opened this blog entry with, Isaiah 43:2-3a: “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord your God,the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.”
I pray, Heavenly father I know you will be with my my son when the waters pass through and I know you will keep him safe as he passes through deep waters of big decisions. Father as he walks through difficult situations keep the flames of trouble from setting ablaze, for you are the Lord God, the Holy One.
Prayer format based on Stormie Omartian’s book “The Power of a Praying Parent”
To Release My Child Into God’s Hands:
Psalm 103:17-18: “But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children— with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.”
Heavenly Father, Today in Jesus’ name I give (name of child) to You. I know in my heart that only You know what is best for him (her), and what his (her) needs are. I hand him (her) over to You to care for and protect. I come to you Lord, to devote time each day to pray for all areas of my child’s life, and I ask that You guide those prayers in the direction of your Will. I thank you and praise you God for helping me to raise my amazing child. Amen.
1 John 4:16: : “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them”
Dear God, I pray today that (name of child) feel loved and accepted by people in his (her) life that will guide him (her) to good not evil. I pray, Father, that you will fill my child with your Holy Spirit and love, and I pray he (she) will totally understand how complete and unconditional Your love is. I pray that You, Father, remove any lies the enemy has placed in my child to believe otherwise. Lord I pray that you will manifest Your love to my child today in a super real way that he (she) feels and knows Your presence. I pray for that love to be returned to You by my child. In Jesus name, Amen.
Today I can say, “It is well with my soul.” Thank you Jesus.
Here is a link to purchase that great little book by Stormie Omartian.
Power of a Praying Parent