Well now, didn’t Cheri bring a whole new meaning to the word “disappoint” or should I say “dis-appoint”.
I could so relate with Cheri when she wrote on page 90, “many people who do not matter have had too much authority over my life.” The highly sensitive me has done this most of my life. These people that I have listened to because I thought they really cared or had my best interest in mind, when in reality they didn’t know me at all and their main objective was more for their gain. It’s exhausting, trying to please so many people that I have never needed to please.
I have taken a picture of Cheri’s text to herself on page 90 so I have it with me all the time. When I feel I am letting someone have unnecessary authority over my life, I can easily pop it up on my phone and read through the script.
Also as an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) I am a reactor, a people pleaser. I have worked all my life not to disappoint people, but this is exactly what Cheri is teaching us to do. Brilliant! I love this concept of “Dis-Appointing” people in my life that have no real authority over me. I no longer have to react, I can “dis-appoint”. I can because the only true authority over my live is Jesus. And with his strength I can have the courage to “dis-appoint” these faux authorities.
Just like the man born blind, we can now see with Jesus and we can set boundaries we are comfortable living in for ourselves. Not anyone else, just us. Let’s “embrace our limits”. This week and moving forward to love who we really are, let’s turn to the only one without limits, God. We are “free to focus on our one-of-a-kind-specialty” (“Exhale” page96)
Who’s with me this week to take the “Faux-pologies Challenge”? Here is a fun record sheet link to keep track of which apologies you make should stay and which need to go bye-bye! https://exhalebook.com/wp-content/uploads/EXHALE_Ch_8_pg_98_Record_Keeping_Sheet.pdf
Here is a quick reminder of when to apologize and when not to:
Who do you need to dis-appoint in your life? Feel free to share in the comments this week. I have a great give away!
Now taking the lesson from Ephesians 2:10, that each of us has been uniquely created by our Heavenly Father to go out and do good works. Then why is it then, as Amy’s friend Debbie describes in Chapter Nine, that “Women spend the first half of their lives not living fulling because they don’t think they are enough- not old enough, not experienced enough, not skilled enough. Women spend the second half of their lives not living fully because they think they’re too much- too old, too irrelevant, too out-of-touch.”
Hey, I don’t want to be this gal either! And I am in the second half of my life now. Breath with me sisters!
I love how Amy breaks down for us the story of the Canaanite Woman. She was one women of faith and I want to be like her.
I am writing this post just as Hurricane Dorian has absolutely taken everything from thousands of people in the Bahamas in its path. The pictures we see on the news of the devastation is heart wrenching. You too at one point may have been a victim of a hurricane, flood, or other natural disaster. You may have lost everything in a fire as many of my friends did one spring day when their college dormitory burnt to the ground. Your story may include a devastating illness like Amy’s friend Jackie, or maybe you have survived abuse, rape.or overcome addiction. We all have our own story, unique to us, with circumstances that have been out of our control.
My friend, there is purpose in the pain. God uses these agonizing times in our lives to draw us into him, just like the Canaanite women was drawn to Jesus.
My favorite part of the Canaanite Women’s encounter with Jesus was when after he had appeared to respond quite harsh to her, she replies, “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” Amy does a beautiful job on page 104 to break this down for us:
“What a quick response and a tremendous statement of faith! She was saying, “Even your crumbs would be enough for me.”
Zip on over to page 105. I was so excited to see Amy use the Greek word “agape”. It is one of my favorite Greek words. It is a HUGE love or as Amy tells us a “feast.” Sister don’t ever think that God is keeping the feast for someone else just because you have had a tough time or because you think your story has more bad endings than hers.
This is where I feel as women we get in trouble with Comparisons, and Social Media is the worst. I think we have seen plenty of blog posts about the dangers of comparing ourselves with what we are “seeing” on Social Media. We have to be real friend, most of us, me too, only post the good stuff. I have a childhood friend that now lives in California. Now she is one of the most real gals I know when it comes to posting on Social Media. She posts the good, bad, ugly, and in-between! As her late husband was going through cancer treatments, she posted real truth, hard truth. After he passed, she did the same, it was raw, from her aching heart. She posts the joy of her four children as they are living on now and the love and support they have from family, friends, and community. My friend will tell you how blessed she is today. You see, she has a huge faith in God! She knows that God doesn’t hold back crumbs but he has a feast for us all.
Take some time this week and “pray-cess” on how God has used His “creative power through you.” (“Exhale” page 109)
You never know who you will help by sharing your story. Feel free to share in the comments. What are you thankful this week?